You want to be in love? You can’t seem to get a solid dating life? Let’s look first at how much time women spend gossiping about how all the good men are taken. Or guys complain that there’s only spoiled women out there. Too much time wasted on this fallacy. Cease & desist! No more bemoaning your singleness. Pull back from your uber-focus on who’s out there or who’s not out there. Here’s what you’re going to do.
You’re going to focus on yourself. Yes, you. How in the world is someone going to spot you if all you’re doing is looking outward for the right face, the right look, the right body, the right chemistry, the right one? This is bass-akwards! Your first step? Enhance your own personal stock portfolio.
Invest in what what turns you on. And I don’t mean sex. If all you wanted was sex, you could have it right now. You’re looking for a meaningful and sexual partnership. So, what are you bringing to the table? Don’t get huffy, this isn’t about you being perfect. The big question is “What makes you come to life?” Do you, can you, enjoy your own company, your own interests, your own passions? Or are you a flat piece of cardboard looking to be entertained?
It’s time to reverse your focus. Find out for yourself, what lights you up from the inside outward. Running 10K’s? Hiking? A range of lecture topics? Growing orchids? Re-mixing your own music? Local politics? Volunteering at the PBS radio station nearby? Museums? If you’re saying, “Yea, yea, yea. Yawn. It’s the same old mumbo jumbo about me getting a hobby.” Then I’ll ask you the great movie line, “Well, kid? Do ya’ feel lucky?”
A romantic relationship will flood you free of charge with ecstatic hormones up until roughly 18 months. Then you’re on your own. At that point – serotonin, dopamine, and adrenaline will need to be outsourced. This means both of you source your own interests and vitality. So, get up out of your Lazyboy or Lazygirl! Invest ahead and insure your future love-assets of a sexy and stimulating happily ever after.