Most relationship damage doesn’t stem from malicious intent. The usual culprits? Ignorance, sloth, fear.
Do you wonder how a relationship can switch from ecstasy to agony? Do you find yourself doubting love can work? If you’re crossing over to the cynical side, let me ask you a question. Do you know how love works? Do you really?
If you are the kind of person who thinks that you know what you’re doing even when you don’t have a clue – up until a month ago I may have judged you. My bad, my bias. Last month when I walked through the doorway of a Sephora store, I got a big ego jolt. I realized I’d joined the ranks of the know-it-alls.
Greeting me at the front entry of Sephora, Sandi, a gorgeous perky too-friendly sales person, AKA “cosmetic expert,” asked if she could help me. With a quick smooth cool, “No, I know what I want,” I breezed by her and headed for the foundation section.
I was lost in a sea of choices. Within 10 minutes, I knew I needed help. I needed Sandi. Voila! Like a a magician, she read my face from a distance and took a chance at breaking my icy shell. 15 minutes later, I’m humbly happily praising Sandi for opening up a whole new world about how foundation works, how to apply a green tint gel underneath the foundation to neutralize my skin tone, topped off with the brush that’s just right for my needs.
Now, let’s bring you men into one of your areas of expertise. What do you think you know about cooking knives? A friend shared a story about his visit to Sur La Table, looking to buy a carving knife for a roast. The salesman led him to 8 possibilities and then led him to the computer for 20 more brand choices. Here’s what he learned in crazy detail about the world of cooking knives:
butterfly knives 2
butcher knives 28
cake knives 13
cheese knives 36
chef knives 287
clam knives 16
boning knives 61
pairing knives 188
bread slicers 354
The moral of these two stories? This is a moment in time when you can decide your own fate. Either shrug your shoulders and go to your default mode, “Aww, heck, what’s to know about love?” Or get your Google on and find out what the experts know about how to recover your faith in love and live happily ever after. Yes. Love can work. Love does work.