Confidence comes from taking the risk to follow your instincts.
Do you look around and wonder why everyone else seems to be succeeding in love, at a career, or an amazing lifestyle? Well I can tell you, it’s not luck, it’s courage. The successful, the happily-in-love, the movers and shakers… are not daunted or held back by fear, doubt, or worry. They’re purely motivated to find out and fail, or find out and succeed. And they do fail, and they do succeed. And they are envied.
Think about it. What was the most recent risk you took? Calling someone up for a first date? Speaking up about your new idea in a business meeting? Initiating conversation in the Starbuck’s line? And what did you go through before you took that leap of faith?
Look, there are three kinds of people. 1) The Unflappable. These are naturally brave (brash?) risk takers. They take action when an impulse strikes. 2) The Second-guessers. They remain stuck and miserable in the courthouse of their mind, weighing the possible outcomes, risks, consequences. 3) The Determined. They feel that queasy feeling in the stomach, they take a deep breath, then they act on their instinct.
Do not make the mistake of assuming that it’s easier for confident people to take risks. There is only one difference between you and the Determined or the Unflappable. Finding out exactly where their instincts will take them is of more value than playing it safe.
At the end of your life, do you want to have played out all your cards and found out where they led you? Or do you want to hold on to your cards tightly, and take them neatly to your grave? If the moment comes and you‘re willing to leave your comfort zone, here are your 3 tools:
1) Commitment: Decide once and for all if you’re willing to risk failing or looking foolish to gain success in love, lifestyle, and work. No more wavering. Yes or No. Look into the mirror. Now declare your intention with vigor.
2) Action: When you have an urge or impulse to speak up or take an action. Step up to the plate and swing. Do it. Take three risks per day.
3) Inspiration: Read 4 biographies of successful people. Notice how many failures (professional and personal) they sustained on their way to success and happiness.